Sunday, 23 December 2007

When nice people turn nasty

Want to find out how nice you really are? Take your self out of its comfort zones for a short while and you will soon find out.

After all, it is easy to be nice when things are going right; hot food on the table, dry clothes on your back, soft bed to sleep at night and friends that agree with your every word.

But when things go wrong, only then, my dear friend, the real you will rear its ugly head and never-never land will be no more.


Ali Raza Rafiq said...

The real personalty of a person only emerges at times of diffculty. Only when the daily pleasures and comforts we enjoy and often take for granted are taken away, can we really recognise a person for who they really are.

This Soul said...

I'm not sure. I think I disagree. When you take someone away from their natural surroundings you're really just testing their ability to adapt and cope. It's not their 'reality' as its not what they are faced with daily, its their instinctive survival characteristics.
But I will say testing one's self in this manner gives does increase one's tolerance and ability to cope outside of their comfort zone. But it's not who they really are, it is an insight to who they can become.

adil said...

Thanks for the comments. However, I think you both may have slightly misunderstood my post. Please read it again noting that the issue of interest is learning about your own self and not learning about some body else.

this soul, wrt your comment, to know somebody else, I think this can only be achieved by interacting with that person beyond the polite smiles and quick conversations, e.g. living, working, travelling or doing business with them. Which, I think, to some extent agrees with your comment, i.e. it is important to know how that person operates in his/her natural day-to-day surroundings.

Your thoughts please. Jazaakumullah Khairan.