Saturday, 30 August 2008

JIMAS - Quotes on Good Manners and Character

Some quotes about good manners and character taken from various talks during last weekend's JIMAS conference:

  1. People of character bring about victory.
  2. Sometimes good manners means we put up with others' bad manners.
  3. In an incident revealed in the Qur'an, Ibrahim (peace be upon him) welcomes/invites some guests even though he doesn't know them and he brings them a large, quality amount of food immediately, without even asking them. An incident to reflect upon.
  4. Guests: Don't ask if they want to eat. You know, out of politeness, they're going to say no. Just bring it.
  5. The saying "serve yourself" does not translate in Arabic. Try it: "ikhdim nafsak". "ikhdim nafsak"?! In the Arabic language and Arab culture, it comes across just plain bizarre.
  6. Feed and assist others for the sake of Allah (SWT). Not to be compensated. To remind of a good deed done is Haram. Severly disliked. A kind word is much better.
  7. Two people (characteristics) loved by Allah: a person who is kind/forbearing and a person who takes time to deliberate.
  8. Some characteristics come natural to a person. Others have to be learned/acquired.
  9. From your good character are qualities like patience and forgiveness.
  10. Mercy: He who doesn't show it, will not receive it.
  11. Our so-called "practice" of Islam becomes a barrier for people accepting it.
  12. "The Prophet's (SAWS) character was the Qur'an" means that the Qur'an is full of character.
  13. Don't make comments like "Oh, you're not married yet?" or "You've put on a bit of weight" or such things. It can be very hurtful for the other person.
  14. Treat your family good, parents in particular. It is a good measure of whether your good behaviour outside the house is just for show. Treat the womenfolk gently.

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